Bad Boys-a wish?

A friend brought this to my attention:  there are a lot of women looking for bad boys in their ads.  This disturbed my friend, as he is a church going male in his 50’s.  He feels like the pool of women he has to choose from is pretty small already, and to add the criteria he needs to be a bad boy to attract a large portion of this group.   I took some time and researched his complaint.  Dad gum, if he wasn’t right on.  In the two personal sites I checked, the numbers blew me away.  My criteria: Man looking for woman; between the age of 40-53; 100 to 250 miles from Las Vegas, Nevada; and pictures on their profile were not needed.  On Match.com there were about 512 women looking for a bad boy type of man, and Yahoo Personal had about 159.  These figures are staggering.   I am going to use an old adage here:  Be careful what you wish for.   A woman places in her ad she is looking for a bad boy, what happens when she gets a bad boy?  There is a reason they are bad boys, let’s remember this.  If they have a criminal record, they probably won’t tell you this upfront, but they will admit they are a bad boy.  They may hang out and do drugs, or drink excessively.  They drive a Harley.  Yup, this could be a bad boy as well.   The woman searching wants a connection with a man, and a little excitement as well.  She is done with the nice-dinner-and-movie-guy.  She wants to get out and have fun, she wants to feel alive, and probably most of all, she wants to feel real passion. In this later age group, the picken’s are smaller than in the younger age group.  Some women feel like they have to settle for what they can get.  In settling, they also feel they may be getting too stagnant, and are feeling their age sneaking up on them.  These women are not looking for a father/dad, they are looking for a man they wouldn’t have wanted around their kids.   Bottom line:  Don’t complain when guys start making connections with you which end up being jerks, users, or just plain mean.  And, please be careful you don’t get a guy who is violent.  Again, be careful what you wish for!